How To Flirt Even Though You Are Shy
A guy and a girl flirting at Bryant Park, Manhattan
It does not matter if you are a girl or a guy if you are shy flirting is very difficult. Well it seems difficult. It doesn’t need to be. In fact with a little practice you will find that flirting can be a lot of fun. Remember just like most things, in flirting there is no one rule that fits all. In fact it is best to be flexible to the situation. Flirting is as much observation as it is action. So observe how the person you are flirting with is reacting to you.
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There are two kinds of flirting. The first is lighthearted fun. It is harmless and enjoyable by both parties and it usually doesn’t have any sort of love interest involved: it is a way of making a friend. The second kind of flirting is flirting with intent, the intent of showing them that you are interested in them romantically.
With the second kind of flirting you’re going to want to make it clear that you are interested in them. You can do this verbally and nonverbally. Everyone loves a compliment and if you’re interested in this person I’m sure that there a lot of things that you could complement them on. Don’t make it sappy because that becomes annoying. Just smile at them and complement their item of clothing, the talent that they may have or some other thing that you find endearing about them.
Nonverbal flirting can be very powerful. Let us look at some ways that you can flirt nonverbally with someone.
First let’s talk about eye contact. The great thing about eye contact is that you can use it to flirt from across the room. This comes in very handy. If you like someone and would like to flirt with them and have made eye contact, try to hold that eye contact for a second. A shy person rarely looks at others straight in the eye. If you’re shy it can be very difficult for you to get into the habit of making eye contact with the person that you are interested in. Only hold the eye contact for about a second, if you hold it longer than that they may think that you are a stalker. That is not the message you would like to send.
Touch is another great nonverbal form of flirting. Holding hands is seen as very romantic in most of the countries in the world. Even brushing your hand against their’s is a great way to induce flirting. If you are in a conversation with someone that you are romantically interested in and would like to initiate some flirting, put your hand on their’s or touch their hand or knee while talking. They will soon get the hint that you are interested.
Getting close up to that person is another great way of flirting. Being close to your romantic interest and whispering in their ear, leaning into each other at a movie or some other way of being physically close is a very exciting way of flirting.
These are progressive ways of flirting. You don’t just want to start with touch. If you are shy you definitely want to work on eye contact and then work your way up to the other forms of flirting. Start slowly and if you get a signal that the other person is not interested don’t continue on the path that you are traveling. You may need to back down or stop flirting all together.
Practice makes perfect so get out there and practice your flirting.
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Olivia Braff was born and raised in the Detroit area. At the age of 24 she moved to New York where she currently lives working as a photographer assistant.
Olivia would never leave New York because there's just no other place like New York.
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